Dear Young Lady who *might* listen to Amy Glass…

Dear young lady, mom to be, stay at home mom, and working mom,

Did you see this article circling Facebook?  The author, Amy Glass, is no doubt looking for some quick money via a lot of traffic to a blog.  If that isn’t her purpose, then she needs therapy.  Her article is entitled “I look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Children and I’m Not Sorry.”

Dear Amy Glass

I have 4 little boys and a husband and I’m only 29.  Therefore, she’s looking down on me.  She may be looking down on you.

If the title of the article wasn’t enough to make your jaw drop, here are a few quotes from the article to get you thinking:

“You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.”

“I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.” “

“Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business. This word play is holding us back.

I checked out the blog she writes from and her other articles are entitled things like, “Is the Point of Having Kids to Not be Lonely?” and “When It Comes to Women, There’s No Equality Gap, There’s an Ambition Gap”.

Her bio only states that she is a ‘power house’ and it seems as though she is not married and has no children.

I wanted to write this because words are powerful.  Even when they seem ignorant, one-sided, and opinionated, they are still powerful.

So, just in case someone read that and questioned their goal to marry and have children or go back to work after a ‘meaningless’ day cleaning up after others, I want to first blatantly say I could not disagree more with Amy Glass.  Wife and mother are amazing titles and anyone who doesn’t know that isn’t one.  The end.

I feel no need to attack Amy or go over sentence for sentence why her thinking is something that cannot even puncture my realm of thought.

So, now let’s talk about death.  You’re going to die.  So am I.  So is Amy.

Let’s say we all live to be a ripe old age and we’re laying on our death bed.  It’s time to reflect on life.  No doubt Amy Glass will be content with her trips through Asia and many diplomas.  She’ll deny that she needs anyone except herself if I were to pose this same scenario to her.  Sometimes you can’t change a person’s mind.

However, sweet friend, I ask you to think about what YOU want on your death bed.  What will you reflect on in those final hours?  What WAS important?

I had this moment years ago after a master’s degree and lots of shiny things in my home.  I gave it up for the role of wife and mother.  Money is tight and there is never an award ceremony.  I am a servant first.  I’ve died to self.  Not only that but, *GASP*, I also don’t ‘get a break’, ever, because I homeschool.

I often think about being old.  Near death.  The thought of reflecting on a life with my husband by my side and my home full of children brings me so much joy.  There will be no regrets.

Can you throw a career in the mix and still love life?  Heck yeah.  But, most likely, your thoughts will go to a husband and children more often than the promotion or corporate relocation.

So, just in case her words scared you or planted a seed of doubt, know that there is an army of mothers and wives on your side.  Fighting for love and family.  I’m one of them.

Comments

  1. Preach it, girl!! Everyone has different viewpoints on how life works, but to actually put people down is really ignorant and immature. For me, as a conservative Christian I feel where I’m at right now, at home, is totally His will for me. Did I like the acknowledgements and financial perks of corporate america? Duh. But when I’m at the end of life I won’t remember how amazing my job was or how what letters were beside my name. Nope. I’ll be thinking of my sweet children that I was blessed with. My amazing husband who I couldn’t live without. I am in His will and there’s no place I’d rather be.

  2. Stephanie says:

    I am 27 I have twin 4 year olds and a baby girl on the way – I am staying at home now to homeschool my boys – I am also a Honors High School Graduate – I have an AS in Dental Hygiene – I worked several years at an *extremely* high pay rate- I am VERY fulfilled and more accomplished then she ever will be. So are you. :D <3

  3. Liz, you are absolutely right! I feel sorry for Amy Glass. I know she doesn’t realize that one day she will regret her decision to live only for herself, but she will. And by that time, there won’t be anything she can do about it. It makes me sad for her, and it also makes me sad for those young women who read her writing and are swayed by her words. Thank you for pointing out the truth that mothering is a hard job, but it’s so completely worth it! I wouldn’t give up my husband and my children for Amy’s life of “accomplishments” because I know that no feeling of accomplishment I could ever get from selfish ambition could possibly top the joy my family brings me ever single day. Amy doesn’t know that feeling, and she may never know it. Sad.

  4. It is sad that this Amy lady has to “look down” on others for the choice they made. Choice. She has choosen her path and should respect that of others.

    Now, as you know my path to mareiage and motherhood looks very different than yours. I lived my 20′s working, living on my own, making and spending money, answering to noone, do what I pleased. In retrospect had I not done these things and rushed into marriage and kids, I would be divorced by now. Because that is my personality. I needed to get the ‘wild’ out.

    I met my hubby at the ripe old age of 31 and had my boy at ages 33 and 35. I think, for me, appreciate them all a lot more because I am older and maybe wiser. I gave up my career to stay at home with my kids. But no one should look down on me or feel pity because I chose to be where I am.

  5. What perfect timing that I saw your beautifully written response! I couldn’t agree more with you. I resigned from my teaching job to stay home with my boys, as I felt that God was calling me home to nurture and take care of my husband and children. I just started homeschooling my youngest two weeks ago, and I know that this is what God made me to do! It’s not a choice that many of my friends and family understand, but I do not need their or society’s approval. Financially it is a huge strain, but my husband and I know that God will provide! Thank you for this post!

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