I don’t like to be with my kids all the time.

99.9% of the time when people see I’m expecting my 5th child and then soon learn we homeschool, the reactions are similar.

“You’re supermom!”

“I could never do it!”

“Three was enough for me!”

“You must be so patient!”

It’s always a little awkward because I think in that moment, while talking with other moms, it’s assumed I’m the ‘better’ mom.  Sending their children to public school or stopping at two kids makes me the essence of patience and love.  Michelle Duggar.

homeschooling stress

Um. No.

Confession.  I do not like to be with my kids all the time. 

Do I love them dearly?  Of course.  Just like you love your kids.

Do I wish I could drop them off for a few hours everyday to regain my sanity.  Yup.

I have always felt guilty about this revelation.  I’ve also dealt with jealously when I see other families who can afford mother’s day out, private school, or whose children thrive in public school.  We tried those things, they didn’t work, and homeschool was/is the natural option.  It works well for my family and it’s molding me more so than my children.

As a former kindergarten teacher, I thought I had more patience than most.  However, I got to GO HOME at the end of the day.  Ha.  In homeschooling, there is no rest for the weary mom.  And for me to say that it’s joyful every second is a big fat lie.

As my two oldest become more independent, the stressful moments are diminishing a bit…until October when we’ll welcome number 5.  I relish the quiet moments and have learned to give up comparing my life to others.

I grow closer to God daily and see what He’s doing in me and my children.  It’s a beautiful thing.  However, I still have many a grouchy moments everyday.  Just when two are down for a nap, the others need me.  I’m always on.  It’s exhausting, and I don’t always like my job.  It’s o.k.  I don’t have to love it every second.  I would be Jesus if I did.  I’m human.  I’m cool with that.  I know with His help, I’ll get better everyday.

Will I give up?  Heck no!  However, I just wanted to share with you all the down and dirty of a homeschooling mom to many who doesn’t ever get a break.

It’s crazy beautiful.  It’s crazy exhausting.  It’s also so worth it.

Fill that coffee cup, take a deep breath, say a prayer,  and keep on truckin’ ladies!  I’m there!

Comments

  1. I liked this post. 🙂

  2. I have 3 & am expecting our 4th in September so I’m just starting to get comments like the ones you mentioned.

  3. Oh I so could have written this yesterday! 🙂 i have five (oldest turned 8 yesterday, youngest is 18 mths) and people make those comments and I always think they are crazy. Haha! Ibjae those moments daily with wishing i could drop them off to regain sanity or at least use the bathroom in peace! Thank you for sharing; i feel a little less insane! 😉

  4. Thank you!

  5. Elisabeth says:

    Hi. I just wanted to say you are only “speaking” what every other HONEST homeschooling mom thinks! At least that’s what I think. You’re an awesome mom and doing a great job keeping your boys (and baby girl) Happy and Healthy! That’s a big job in itself. Thanks for the motivation and honesty. You Rock!! And…..that sure is a good picture? Who took it?? (wink 🙂

  6. Thank you for this post. Its so easy to carry that mommy guilt, especially on days where they are getting on your last nerve!

  7. I could have written this entry! lol I love my children (3,3,2,1, and expecting in Nov) but sometimes I too wish there were special babysitters out there who loved watching more than 2 children at once so I could get a date night. lol I know I’m kidding myself here. Glad to know there are other moms out there who love being with their kids but are honest enough to say they love their short breaks from them. 😉

  8. Stephanie says:

    I stumbled across your blog today, and this was exactly what I needed to read. My kids are 7, 6, 4, 3, and due in Nov. I love them dearly, and am glad we have a “large” family, and I’m glad we homeschool, but there are days that are just exhausting! On a day where all I want to do is go take a long nap, this post was very encouraging!

  9. yay! I get these comments too….all the time! Over the years I have made excuses or just minimized our decision but husband and I have been talking recently about being more honest and blunt when people ask about what we do and why we do it. I feel like we should be truthful, maybe it will set a spark in that one mom like it did me many years ago.
    Like you, I am not supermom. I get worn out, stressed out, and need a break sometimes. But I believe children are a blessing and wouldn’t trade being with mine 24/7 for anything in the world. Thanks for your post!

  10. Love this! I get those comments all the time and my reply is always close to “you don’t live with me haha!” I dont feel like I’m more of a saint because I have six kids or because I homeschool. Doesn’t make me a better mum and I sure don’t feel great about my parenting most days. I get tired and stressed and the mess I dont have time to clean grates on my nerves but I focus on what is important – I love my kids and I want to do the best job I possibly can 🙂

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