Sanding my edges, the first step.

My first goal is simple.  Compliment my child a ton more than I rag on him.  I’m writing this SUPER fast this morning because I woke up (late) as usual and after I got dressed and got into my ‘I have responsibilities’ mode, it started…”Who didn’t put the milk back?”  “The Milk is still out.”  “Noah, the MILK..NOW!”.  So, there ya go. Apparently WRITING about this stuff last night did no good.  No magic mommy fairy came to my pillow.  So today it’s…..


‘Who left this here?’

“Why haven’t you turned off the tv?

“Do I have to tell you again?”

“Can you please not whine for like 2 seconds?”

“Stop shouting”

“You’re too loud”

Etc. Etc. Etc.

It’s safe to say I’m nit-picky.  {Dear Hesitant Husband, please don’t comment on this blog post about how this is true.  Over and out.}

More of:

“Good job.”

“I love you.”

“I’m proud of you.”

“This room is so clean.”

“Your handwriting rocks.”

“You’ve been so patient with your brothers today!”

“Wow your teeth are shiny!”

This will be hard, y’all.  I won’t lie.  But I’ve realized that Jesus would never talk to me like this.  And if I don’t show my kids the love my Savior has for me, than I’m nothing but another person on this earth to them.  And I don’t want to be just another person.  I want to be their mother.

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  1. I just have to say that I Love your blog. Everytime you write I feel like Im right there with you. I can relate so much to everything you struggle with in Mommy-hood. I also have a horrible habit of yelling. About everything. I’ve been making a conscious effort to be calm and “nice” and I’ve not only seen a difference in me but in my kids. They are happier because Im happier and it’s great. I still have very off days where Im yelling all the time and wonder how I still have a voice but Im having less “loud” days then now then “quiet and happy”. Thank You again for the post just what I needed to remind me today. Im glad Im not alone. 🙂

  2. It all starts with baby steps. 🙂 I’ve been able to at least get the volume level in my tone–still working on the tone itself. With God, all things are possible. I repeat these two verses all day long:

    The JOY of the Lord is my strength… AND His strength is made perfect in my weaknesses. 🙂

  3. That is totally me and my mission is the same as yours.. It is sooo difficult. All we can do is try try again and remember everyday is a fresh start. : )

  4. Hey, even the military has a “crawl, walk, run” training mentality 😉 Seriously, they will respond to those positive reinforcements. But don’t be super hard on yourself when you do need to raise your voice above the din and be heard. It happens.

  5. Woman…we are in the same boat (& glad I am not alone). I so needed to read this today. I often see my “angel self” sitting on my “big-self’s” shoulder, saying (or likely yelling :)) “Calm down!….take a breath…lower YOUR voice…is it really that big of a deal?”

    I think we are trying our hardest or maybe trying too hard to teach our kids to be perfect in what we imagine, is the perfect world. Well life happens…and it’s not always perfect.

    I think your goal is a great one for me too! It’s never too late to try…

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